thank you for the comments / condolences / etc. It is much appreciated.
I’m more worried about dad than I am about me.. he’s still not doing to well, but then,he’s going through his brother’s stuff, when the guy should have lived another 10 years or so. I’m going down to Innisfail tomorrow to spend the weekend with him, so that at least I can be there to give him a hug & help with the cleaning etc. I don’t know what else I can do, really.
My sister will not be coming over now. She’s changed her mind.. apparently dad had offered to pay her flights, but she feels that it would be a better idea for him to spend the money on going over there later this year to have a holiday with them – spend time with the kids and everyone, not just her for the funeral time.. Think nothing of the fact that he needs the support & family around him now.. No. They can’t bend to anyone else’s needs… never have, never will.
Forgive me if that sounds narky, but this is the third time in four years that I have had to bear the brunt of one (or both) of my parents practically falling over because she thinks it would be better a different way, or can’t be effing bothered..
gah.
Also this afternoon, I had to convince mum that ‘it’s worth’ coming up for the funeral. Granted shehas her stuff to deal with as well, however, this is the funeral of a man who attended both of her parent’s funeral’s (when he didn’t need to), also has been a good friend to her over the last 36 years or so. We’re talking about the brother of her husband of 36 years – ignore the fact that my parents are now seperated – they are still friends, and I’m sure that dad needs to know that he still has friends – people that care about him, at very least. I have difficulty believing that my mother would be so closed as to assume that dad wouldn’t want her there. Or for that matter, that John wouldn’t appreciate the fact that she would make the effort for him. Or perhaps she thought that dad would not appreciate the fact that she would make an effort for his brother.
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